Our job as the adults in "our" childrens' lives is to educate them and raise them up from "boulders" or obstacles. It is not an easy solution, but a critical one. As the caregivers, we need to sit back and see the whole picture to fill in the gaps.
My revelation,solution, this week is to love, care, and fill in gaps along the way. My favorite professor says, "a good teacher (even parent) can teach their student anything with even a bunch of rocks." So as we are approaching the state tests and we are on the downhill of the school year (Hooray for 100th day!), we need to teach the teachable moments and not stir up emotions while we teach. When the child has reached their breaking point, or we have, no one is learning anymore. I've exposed the "elephant in the room".... now begin to see the BIGGER picture and love those kids (even the ones that don't seem to respond to it).